Patrick Schwerdtfeger is a motivational speaker who can speak about channeling the powerful motivators of anger and jealousy at your next business event. Contact us to check availability. The full transcript of the above video is included below.
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Hi and welcome to another edition of Strategic Business Insights. Today we’re going to talk about negative motivation and how that compares to positive motivation. So what am I referring to here? Well, negative motivation is motivation that comes out of anger or envy or jealousy, whereas positive motivation might be like “to be happy” or love or world peace, to make the world a better place. Negative motivation by contrast might be something like “to prove those bastards wrong.” Maybe someone made fun of you when you were a child or maybe your parents were critical of you, or maybe both, and you want to prove those bastards wrong. That’s negative motivation.
Now, which one’s more powerful? Negative. Negative motivation is way more powerful than positive motivation. It would be great if the motivation for just happiness and love were super-powerful, but the reality—they’re powerful. There’s power there. But it doesn’t even compare to the power of negative motivation.
Now, a lot of times, when you hear success stories from people who are really famous or successful, quite often they are rooted in that negativity. They had a hard upbringing. They were made fun of. They were teased. People were critical of them in their own families.
And listen, this was true for me too. While I was growing up I got teased in high school quite a bit and my parents were quite critical of me as well. So both happened and I was angry. Like I was really angry. I was depressed for a period of time, but more importantly, I was angry. And that is powerful motivation. I never would have gone to where I am today if it wasn’t for that negative motivation.
So embrace it. Don’t feel like that negativity, you have to get rid of it in your life. There’s a way that it’s going to go away, and I’ll tell you about that in just two seconds. But when it’s there, you’re angry, right? If you’re angry, you’ve got to embrace that. You’ve got to embrace that negative motivation. You’ve got to stay angry. You’ve got to push. You’ve got to fight through. You’ve got to overwhelm your opponent.
This is the way I’ve lived my life for so long. I used to say that my biggest motto behind my own success was brute force. I just forced my way through. I overwhelmed my opponent. I worked so hard that nobody could deny me the success I deserved. Think about it. Just hear the tone of my voice. It was angry. I was angry. I got success through anger. And again, I know that there’s negativity to it, but the bottom line is it’s very powerful stuff. There’s a lot of horsepower there. So embrace it to get to success.
Now, here’s where it’s going to go away, and I’ve noticed this in the last three years of my life. I struggled like crazy. I mean, I had like six, seven years where I just made like practically no money at all, and honestly for that long, I mean, we’re talking month after month trying to figure out how you’ll pay your bills and stay solvent, it makes you question your manhood. I mean, it just completely plays havoc on your confidence and your self-esteem. And now that I’ve kind of come out of it, I’m not afraid to tell you that there were times where I was just a shattered human being. I was just so angry and frustrated in my life.
So maybe you know how I feel or how I felt, but here’s what happened. The last three years things have started to improve, like a lot. It didn’t go slowly. Like when I turned the corner, I turned the corner pretty tight and I started going up like this really, really quickly. And the last three years have been really astonishing and I’ve spoken like all over the world and I’m getting paid well, and all of a sudden things have really started to come together. And what’s happened? The negativity is dissolving. It’s not gone yet but I can feel it in my own life. It’s starting to dissipate. It’s starting to go away.
That negativity is starting to go away, and what’s happening is I’m starting to want to share. I want to share what’s happened in my life. That’s why I’m doing this video series, is I’m trying to share my expertise. And it’s fun for me now. And I never would have been like that before but now the negative, the anger, has kind of gone away.
And so what you find with these successful people in the world is that at the time of their success, maybe they’re doing an interview and they’re just relaxed and you can hear it in their voice that they’re positive and they’re loving, and they’re loving to themselves but they’re also loving to other people in their lives, like everything’s pretty cool, but then they tell their story of like this crazy negative period which happened earlier in their life. What happened there? They came out of negativity and they fought like crazy to become successful, and when they came successful that negativity dissipated. It went away on its own.
And people underestimate the struggle that led to that. It’s like a caterpillar that goes into a cocoon and eventually comes out as a butterfly, and so when you see the butterfly you assume it was always a butterfly, but it wasn’t. It used to just be a caterpillar. It’s the same thing. If you’re negative today, you’ve got to see a brighter tomorrow. You’ve got to see the horizon of your goals being achieved and you’ve got to fight towards that with all the negativity that you have. You’ve got to focus it and fight and overwhelm your opponent and do all the things you need to do, and know that when you get there, when you get there, that’s when it’s going to release. That’s when those fists are going to go like that.
I’m right in the middle of this right now. For the last two, three years I’ve noted I sleep better. I’m a little more calm. I’m not out of the woods yet, but things are coming.
So anyway, the moral of the story is, number one, negative motivation is way more powerful than positive motivation. So if you’re angry, you’ve got to embrace that anger and channel it –channel it in the right way. Channel it towards your future success. And number two, know that when you get there, that negativity will release for the right reasons. For the right reasons – this is very, very important.
Thanks for watching this video. My name is Patrick, reminding you as always to think bigger about your business, think bigger about your life.
Patrick Schwerdtfeger is a keynote speaker who has spoken at business conferences in North America, South America, Europe, Africa, the Middle East and Asia.